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Personality of a person develops from the interpersonal relationships. The sum total of various personal experience make a person attain his maturity and it is a life long process. We can not judge our emotions.We have to accept the fact that we can not judge our emotions as right or wrong. Our jealousy, anger,sexual feelings, fear etc never makes us good or bad. All most all our emotions are hereditary. Before suppressing or reacting to these emotions we must let these emotions to come out in its fullness in our mind. There are mainly five steps in handling our emotions.
1. Realize and understand your emotions:-
When you are angry find that you are angry.
2. Try to understand what kind of emotions are you experiencing and how intense it is.
3.Why and from where that emotions are coming:-
For example you are angry with your son. Why you are angry at him. May be it is your own uncomfortable feeling that you can not handle or direct him properly make you angry . Or it may be due to he failed to come up with your expectations.
4. Report the emotions as fast as possible:-
You can report it to that person towards whom you feel it.
5. Connect your emotions with brain:-Analyse your emotions using your brain and experience. And take decisions thinking thoroughly. And implement those decisions precisely with strong determination
It can be well explained through an example;
Imagine that your are in an argument with your friends. It is a serious discussion and everyone is trying to express their view. Voice is rising , blood pressure is shooting up and each one trying to win around the other.
1.Realize and understand your emotions:-
Deviate your mind for a few minutes from the discussion. Ask to yourself what are the emotions I have right now? Is am afraid of the ability of my friend to put forth good points? Or is I am afraid of his physical strength? or Is it my confidence that am right and my points are relevant?
2.Accept the emotion:-
Understand the emotion you are having and accept it. And analyse how strong it is.
3. Scrutinize your emotion:-
Think and find out from where came anger to my mind . What caused its presence? Is it my inferiority complex to the counterpart?
4. Report your emotions:-
Report the reality to the one to whom you are feeling such emotions. Never try to point your fingers at others. Never think that he/she and her comments made me angry. Understand that problem is with in you. Don't even blame others in the bottom of your heart.
5. Connect your emotions with brain:-
You must have an awareness about your emotions analyse it with your experience and your reasoning capacity and decide how to deal with it. And try to implement the decision with strong determination.
You could either say, shall we start this discussion once again ? I have been thinking very defensively. So I could not listen carefully to your points and opinions. Or let us stop this discussion ,I am getting irritated and deviated and I can't indulge myself properly in this discussion.